My Big Fat Green Wedding

I love green! I love chartreuse, kelly green, mint, and olive. I love seeing spinach and broccoli on my plate. I love pearly green punch buggies. I love my green contacts. I also love green weddings. I’ve wanted one every since I found out they exist. So I’ve been having images of green wedding in my head as I dream about the possibilities.


Well that’s pretty but it’s not exactly the green wedding I had in mind. More like this:


Can you tell the difference? I didn’t want the color green, I wanted eco-friendly green. I know little ‘ole me cannot make all the difference in the world, but I try in as many ways as I can to help keep the earth thriving. I figure if one person gets inspired and tries then I made a difference, and maybe they’ll inspire someone and so on. So a green wedding is a great way for me to make a small difference and since being green is contagious I can hopefully infect (er, inspire) a large group of people. Another advantage of being green is I can incorporate my love of nature. There are two places I love the most, the beach and the woods and having a celebration there would make me nothing but happy. I’m so excited about using wood and other elements from nature. I did plenty, plenty research on green weddings so I could learn all the ways I could possibly be green and choose what could fit us. On Weddingbee, Mrs.Cherry Pie gave me a great start and Mrs. Pino Noir helped me appreciate my (half) destination wedding could still be green. So here’s how I plan to be green:


  1. For the Bahamas wedding we plan to have the ceremony and reception at one place. Either at a restaurant, private beach or the national park.
  2. We plan to have the Virginia (AHR) Reception at a park.


  1. Instead of buying a new dress I plan to revamp my mother’s first wedding dress and one of her prom dresses to create my own memorable dress.
  2. The requirements for the other members of the family/bridal party attire are that it must be either reused or purchased new with the intent of re-wearing. Hopefully no one will spend more than $150 on their attire.


  1. We plan to buy recycled paper as much as possible. Response options can be either postcards (with no envelope) or responding online.
  2. We hope to create a detailed website to avoid having to use extra paper to give guests details not everyone will need.


  1. Buying used with the hope of reusing or reselling will be my first choice if renting is not the cheaper option.
  2. We plan to not have styrofoam, plastic or paper products if at all possible to reduce what’s thrown in the trash. For the Bahamas reception we will purchase bamboo/leaf plates, wood utensils and use cloth napkins. For the Virginia reception I will try to collect patterned china from family members, thrift stores and craigslist. I hope to use real glasses or cups of recycled materials for both events.
  3. I would love to find different patterned cloth napkins to later turn into a quilt.
  4. I hope to collect wine bottles, glass jars and tin cans to use for decor and food storage.
  5. As much as possible the menus will consist of local foods.


  1. Flowers will be used as little as possible and if used will be local grown or potted plants.
  2. Décor, bouquets and boutonnieres will consist of sola wood flowers, seashells, feathers and fabric.
  3. No birdseed or alternatives will be thrown


  1. Since it’s a destination wedding and were looking for guests presence and not presents we plan to not register for tons of things I mostly have since I’m established in my home.
  2. Gifts for wedding party members will be gifts they will get use out of.
  3. Favors will be edible or reusable so guests will get the most benefit out of them
  4. Because it’s a half destination wedding, guests flying will contribute to global warming via the carbon dioxide. It would be great to give each guest an 11-watt compact fluorescent bulb to replace a 50-watt incandescent bulb with their wedding favor will save 685 pounds of carbon dioxide. (Tip found in: Sierra Club Magazine‘s interview with an environmental studies and biology professor from Oberlin, Ohio)


  1. Individual menus will not be necessary. We will display options for guest on one sign, maybe a chalkboard.
  2. Programs will be made with recyclable material and hopefully be a keepsake to save them trash.

Towards the end of planning I hope to have accomplished all these goals! Are you planning to be green in your wedding planning or daily life?



Git er Done!

Git er done! Add that to the list of things I never thought I’d hear my mother say. I can’t remember if she was talking about school work or house chores the first time she told me this.


  I came to Nassau in December with full intentions to Git er Done- getting this wedding planned that is.  I had my wedding notebook and nice pens ready, my power point files of inspiration pictures ready and I had done all the research I could on the internet to get ready! I was hoping to have all the major planning for the wedding done before I left, but it didn’t exactly go as planned. Who am I kidding, what in my life goes as planned!? We did accomplish to drive around and look at some beautiful venues and discuss some details with a few friendors. But I left at the end of that wonderful week with nothing checked off my to do list, no date, no venue, no vendors. I was quite stressed about this because in the back of my head I kept hearing “Git er Done” and we were a long ways off.

Remember I told you I had started planning long before we were official? Well I had been doing research and frequenting wedding blogs for some time. I was planning for a May 2012 wedding because of the cruise ship schedule, I thought it would be convenient for everyone to get on the cruise ship in Norfolk and come to Bahamas for the wedding plus get a vacation and I knew I would have off work for one week in May.  Since a four month engagement would not leave me much time to get things done so I wanted to start early and be ready. Raoul and I had a serious conversation, meaning he told me stop planning for everyone else, and I realized it wasn’t going to give us enough time so save for a wedding we wanted to (mostly) pay for ourselves or give our guests enough time to save for the trip. Raoul was comfortable with July. My employers were great and said whatever date I pick is fine for them, but being a Nanny is was important to me to choose a date convenient for the family. A family that was growing, when I learned there was a baby on the way at the end of July I really wanted to plan accordingly. I talked with some family about what would be a good time for them and they needed more time to save and taking a week off work was not feasible. Then I asked my “Pops”, a man whom I love and want to marry us. He has to be one of the busiest men in America and he said August would be the most appropriate. I felt it was way too far away to get to be with my honey but it worked out well with my work schedule and did give me time to work on my extensive list of DIY projects. I picked the last Saturday in August and it was a conflict for my Pop’s. I was so frustrated after going back and forth for almost three weeks so I just said “Okay the weekend before and I’m done” (I have a tendency to make decisions like this, it’s how I bought my new car) I didn’t look at the calendar till I was about to pitch the date to Raoul that evening and I realized that’s my late grandmothers (whom I was very close to) birthday August 18th.  It was always easy to remember 8.18.28 and how easy would that be for me to remember my wedding date. I crossed my eyes that Raoul would be ok with date, and he was!

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So the first accomplishment on our wedding planning was checked off the list, we had a date. Which meant I could really take off on planning and “Git er Done!” How long did it take you to finalize a date? Did you have to consider the schedules or family and friends?